Adapting the GROW Model with AI for Neurodivergent Clients
Neurodivergent brains often don’t click with rigid systems. The GROW model—a classic coaching framework—works even better when paired with AI tools that adapt to your needs. Think of AI as a sidekick: it helps with brainstorming, structure, and reminders, while your human coach provides the care, nuance, and accountability.
About the GROW Model
The GROW model was developed in the 1980s by Sir John Whitmore, a British racing driver turned business coach, along with Graham Alexander and Alan Fine. It became one of the most widely used coaching frameworks, particularly in executive coaching, leadership development, and personal growth. The model was built on the foundation of Socratic questioning, helping clients self-discover their own solutions through structured guidance rather than direct advice. It was influenced by Timothy Gallwey’s “Inner Game” coaching philosophy, which emphasized that obstacles to success are often internal rather than external.
The GROW Model in Plain English
G = Goal → What do you want?
R = Reality → Where are you now?
O = Options → What could you try?
W = Will (Way Forward) → What will you actually do?
How AI Can Help, Step by Step
1. G = Goal: Making Goals Flexible
Challenge: Long-term planning feels rigid or overwhelming.
With AI:
ChatGPT → Break vague project notes and goals into smaller steps.
Notion AI → Build goal trackers with checklists or timelines.
Mind mapping app of your choice → Create visual goal maps if you’re more visual than linear.
Result: Goals that flex with your energy and interests.
2. R = Reality: Seeing Things Clearly
Challenge: Time blindness, perfectionism, or shame make it hard to see what’s real.
With AI:
Calendar app of your choice→ Notice your focus patterns on your calendar and adjust schedules.
ChatGPT → Reframe negative self-talk: “Why do I always fail?” → “What’s working, and how can I build on that?”
Result: Data plus reflection, without self-judgment.
3. O = Options: Getting Unstuck
Challenge: Too many ideas = decision paralysis.
With AI:
Mind mapping app of your choice → Build visual mind maps from scattered ideas.
ChatGPT → Ask for alternatives: “Give me three low-energy ways to start this project.”
Notion or Trello → Use AI-powered task boards to organize and prioritize.
Result: Options that fit different moods, energy levels, and thinking styles.
4. W = Will: Following Through Without Burnout
Challenge: Inconsistent motivation and executive dysfunction.
With AI:
Google Calendar Tasks or Todoist → Turn tasks into simple, daily checklists with reminders.
Streaks or Habitica → Gamify habits and celebrate small wins.
Result: Accountability feels gentle and doable, not punishing.
Final Thoughts
For neurodivergent clients, AI isn’t the boss—it’s the assistant. You stay in charge. Don’t allow the apps to dictate how you work.
Your coach brings the emotional depth. AI makes the process less overwhelming and more forgiving.
About the Author
Minal Kamlani is a trauma-informed ADHD recovery coach based in NYC. She works with neurodivergent adults in recovery from trauma, burnout, and survival-based coping. Her coaching blends structure and nervous system awareness to help clients reclaim function—without shame or perfectionism. Learn more at Higher Vibes Coaching.