Higher Vibes Coaching Blog
Adapting the GROW Model with AI for Neurodivergent Clients
Integrating AI with the GROW model enhances adaptability, inclusivity, and personalization for neurodivergent individuals, empowering them with greater self-agency. By leveraging AI for insights, flexible goal-setting, and accountability, ND clients can overcome executive dysfunction, improve brainstorming, and develop action plans that align with their unique thinking styles, while human coaches provide essential emotional depth and ethical guidance for sustainable growth.
20 Things to Say to Bros To Take Your Power Back
Sometimes, you don’t want to debate a “bro”—you want to shut him down and keep it moving. Whether it’s at work, on a date, or just existing in the world, here’s how to shut that s**t down. And also, a lady can be a “bro” too…and that’s extra messed up!
It Sucks to Be Scapegoated for Telling the Truth
When you name what’s not working—at work or in your family—you’re often seen as the problem, even when you’re trying to create safety or help. This piece offers insight into why truth-telling can make people defensive and what it can cost to stay honest in systems built on silence.
10 Things Coaches Should Reveal to Clients
Many coaches are taught to ask powerful questions, but they are often not taught to be powerful witnesses. There’s a huge difference between holding space and being real in it. So here’s my spicy, soulful list of 10 Things Coaches Should Reveal to Their Clients—not to center themselves, but to model radical honesty, safety, and shared humanity.
10 Truths About Recovery Every Coach and Client Should Know
Coaching someone in recovery—or coaching yourself—requires more than tools and credentials. These 10 truths cover harm reduction, relapse, identity shifts, and the deep impact of trauma and systemic oppression. If you’re a life coach, wellness practitioner, or trauma survivor learning to lead yourself, this guide lays the foundation for recovery-oriented, trauma-informed coaching that actually supports healing.
Hot Seat Therapy and 360° Reviews Are the Same Bullsh*t
Too many internal coaches and managers still measure growth by how well you conform to other people’s expectations—especially if you’re neurodivergent, BIPOC, queer, or disabled. The result? More masking. More burnout. Less truth. This post offers a radical reframe of feedback. We’ll also dig into why the beloved 360° review process often mirrors a shady group therapy tactic called hot seat therapy—and how both can go off the rails without care, consent, and context.
When “You Got This Feels” Like a Slap
Tired of hearing “You got this!” when you’re barely hanging on? Here are 15 phrases that sound supportive—but can actually leave you feeling alone—and what to say instead to get the real help you need.
BIPOC Managers: Lead Without Losing Yourself
Being a BIPOC manager means balancing leadership, mentorship, and unspoken expectations—often at the expense of your well-being. Here, we break down the unique challenges, burnout risks, and systemic barriers BIPOC leaders navigate, backed by data, with actionable insights on how to lead without sacrificing yourself.
When Trauma Pulls You Back, You’re Still Moving Forward
Growth means facing past wounds with new awareness, not starting over. When trauma resurfaces, it’s proof of progress—showing you can respond differently. Here’s how to keep moving forward.
ADHD vs. Autism: Key Differences, Overlapping Traits, and How to Get the Right Diagnosis
ADHD and autism share traits like masking, sensory overload, and social exhaustion, but they are distinct neurotypes (even though there is often an overlap). Learn how to tell the difference, why ADHDers may seem autistic, and how to get an accurate diagnosis.
From Invisible to Unstoppable: How to Be a Thought Leader Without Masking
Struggling to gain visibility despite being an expert in her field, Tara felt shut out on social media. This case study reveals how coaching helped her transform her approach, build influence on her own terms, and land industry recognition—without chasing validation. It also includes tips to help you reframe feeling too different as an advantage, not a liability.
Sassy Quotes to Boost Confidence, Set Boundaries, and Own Your Energy
Confidence is your birthright. These unapologetic quotes will help you stand tall, enforce boundaries like a pro, fight through challenges with resilience, and prioritize rest without guilt—because your energy is priceless, and survival is an art form.
Why So Many Fake Executive Coaches?
Why is “Executive Coach” the hottest (and most overused) title in coaching? This bold take calls out the hype, reveals why real senior-level business experience matters, and offers better title alternatives to build trust—and attract the right clients.
5 ADHD Coaching Mistakes That Sabotage Progress (And What to Do Instead)
Coaching ADHD clients isn’t just about productivity hacks—it’s about understanding how their brains actually work. Here are five common coaching mistakes that can backfire, plus smarter, ADHD-friendly strategies that lead to real results
5 Signs It’s Not Psychologically Safe (and You Should GTFO)
Navigating social interactions in today’s politically charged climate can feel exhausting. Learn how to quickly recognize unsafe conversations, set boundaries, and decide when to engage—or walk away—to protect your psychological well-being.
Marisol’s Story: Choosing Herself in a World That Won’t Stop Questioning Her
Marisol, a recent college grad, struggles with modern dating pressures, cultural misunderstandings, and so-called progressive men who don’t respect her boundaries. They even went as far as to call her racist for wanting to date within her culture. Through coaching, she learns to trust herself, set firm limits, and embrace dating on her own terms. Read her story.
ICF Ethics & Identity in Coaching: Why “I Can Coach Anyone” Is a Red Flag
Some coaches dismiss identity in coaching, violating ICF ethics and DEIB principles while gaslighting clients and peers. Learn why erasing identity isn’t neutrality—it’s unethical coaching that fails to create truly inclusive spaces.
The Myth of “I Can Coach Anyone”: How Lily Zheng’s FAIR Framework Elevates Coaching
Discover why the belief that “I can coach anyone” can be harmful to clients and the coaching profession in this eye-opening case study. Learn how Lily Zheng’s FAIR Framework (Fairness, Access, Inclusion, and Representation) can help coaches develop cultural competence and create truly equitable, client-centered coaching experiences.
Case Study: How Diana Managed Her Cortisol Rollercoaster
Diana is a high-achieving management consultant with a sharp mind who thrives on early morning deep thinking but also truggles with grogginess upon waking. Crowded public settings for too long can spike her stress levels, while excessive evening socializing or late-night work can push her into an overexcitable state, making it hard to wind down for restful sleep. We worked on a cortisol-balancing routine that supported her natural rhythms while preventing stress-induced energy crashes and sleepless nights.
10 Tips to Help ADHD Students Stay on Track When Home Life is Chaotic
When there’s a lot going on at home—whether it’s loud siblings, family stress, or constant distractions—staying focused can feel impossible, especially for students with ADHD. But with the right strategies, you can create a sense of control and structure, even in a busy environment. Here are 10 practical tips to help ADHD students stay on track. Not every tip will be a perfect fit, so experiment and see what helps the most. ADHD brains thrive with structure, movement, and rewards, so keep things simple, flexible, and fun!