Higher Vibes Coaching Blog
These posts were written for leaders who seek coaching and coaches working at the intersection of identity, trauma, and recovery.
Welcome to the Blog
Didn’t Do Your Coaching “Homework”? Why That’s the Best Time to Show Up.
Didn’t follow through on your coaching action plan? That moment isn’t failure—discover how reframing that changes everything to help you move forward. Showing up anyway builds real confidence, sharpens self-trust, and helps you create strategies that actually work in your life—not just on paper.
Your Best Employees Have Side Hustles. That’s the Point.
Dear recruiters and hiring managers, side hustles aren’t a red flag—they’re a power move. People with lives outside work think more sharply, burn out less, and don’t play office politics. If your team needs extra income, that’s a pay issue—not a loyalty problem.
How to Shut Down Unsolicited Advice and Micromanagement with Confidence
Some people believe they have the right to tell others what to do, but their need for control doesn’t mean you have to give in. Learn how to recognize and respond to unsolicited advice and micromanagement with direct, confident strategies that help you reclaim your autonomy and set clear boundaries—without unnecessary conflict.
Workplace Bullying and the Nervous System: How to Respond Without Losing Yourself
Workplace bullying isn't about power — it's about a dysregulated person offloading their panic onto you. Learn why bullies target confident people, what chronic exposure does to your nervous system, and how to fight back without losing yourself.
Read This if People Don’t “Hear” What You Have to Say
This is a practical guide for anyone tired of being talked over or ignored. It’s especially for you if anxiety, trauma, bullying, culture, or neurodivergence have minimized your voice. Here’s a step-by-step way to bring your voice back online—gently, clearly, and on your terms. These steps aren’t about being louder — they’re about feeling safe and confident enough that your voice doesn’t have to hide.
Getting the ADA Accommodations You Deserve as a Neurodivergent or Disabled Professional
Workplace accommodations shouldn’t be a fight, but for many neurodivergent and disabled employees, the process is confusing, draining, and often mishandled by employers. This article explains your ADA rights, the true meaning of the interactive process, and how to advocate for yourself without oversharing medical information. You’ll learn how to document delays, build allies, and stay grounded — even if you’re facing discrimination, retaliation, or systemic resistance.
Anger Isn’t the Enemy — It’s the Alarm
Anger isn’t the enemy — disconnection is. Learn how DBT tools like HALT can help you manage anger mindfully, transforming emotional chaos into clarity and compassionate leadership.
Stop Asking Me to Fit In: A Love Letter to the Brave Weirdos at Work
It takes courage to examine what “belonging” actually looks and feels like, so it becomes accessible to more people. Learn how relational leadership and brave authenticity transform workplaces into spaces of trust, repair, and innovation.
What Mamdani’s Win — and How Cuomo and Trump Reacted — Reveal About Power, Safety, and Change
As fear escalates under Trump’s second term, trauma-informed leadership offers an antidote. Through the lens of Zohran Mamdani’s historic NYC win, we explore how nervous-system awareness, regulation, and ethical power can transform fear-based leadership into connection-based change.
Performance Improvement Plans and Neurodivergent Employees
Performance Improvement Plans (PIPs) are the illusion of fairness. If you’re on one—or giving one—read this before you cause or endure more harm. This deep dive exposes how PIPs damage mental health, reinforce bias, and ignore ADA protections—and includes checklists for employees, managers, and HR. Plus, a glimpse at what comes next: the Human Development Plan.
Neutrality Is Not Silence: How Coaches and Leaders Can Honor Identity, Inclusion, and Psychological Safety
Explore why “neutrality” in coaching and leadership often becomes a tool of erasure. This in-depth article reframes neutrality as emotional maturity—not avoidance—and offers new research, inclusive frameworks, and self-reflection tools to help leaders, coaches, and teams build real psychological safety.
Coaching’s Empathy Problem: How Performance Culture Hijacked Presence
Many coaches talk about empathy—but few embody it. This essay exposes how performative empathy, toxic positivity, and the pressure to “look caring” are re-traumatizing clients and burning out practitioners. Learn the neuroscience behind real attunement, how false empathy activates the brain’s pain pathways, and five embodied practices to rebuild authentic presence in your coaching work.
CARE Framework: A Neuroscience-Backed Way to Manage Time, Energy, and Focus
For creative, sensitive, or neurodivergent minds, traditional time management methods may not be a good fit. The Higher Vibes CARE Framework offers a gentler, neuroscience-informed way to prioritize — one that honors your energy cycles, executive function, and need for rest. Learn to organize your week with clarity, calm, and self-compassion
4-Week Confidence Activation Challenge
Build lasting confidence through neuroscience-informed, trauma-aware coaching tools that strengthen courage and self-trust. This 4-week Confidence Activation Challenge guides you step-by-step from emotional regulation to embodied action—using mindfulness, journaling, and micro-exposure exercises to reduce anxiety, rewire negative self-talk, and create authentic confidence that feels aligned, not forced. Discover how to calm your nervous system, expand your comfort zone, and cultivate courage in manageable, sustainable ways.
Time Management Frameworks and Tools for Focus and Energy
Learn practical time management frameworks and tools that help you focus on what truly matters. Discover proven systems for prioritizing tasks, reducing overwhelm, and managing your energy—not just your schedule.
The Neuroscience of Self-Leadership: How to Activate Your Inner Leader in 5 Steps
Learn how to activate your inner leader through five science-backed steps that connect your strengths, values, and vision. This guide blends neuroscience and positive psychology to help you lead with clarity, confidence, and purpose — starting from within.
It Sucks to Be Scapegoated for Telling the Truth
When you name what’s not working—at work or in your family—you’re often seen as the problem, even when you’re trying to create safety or help. This piece offers insight into why truth-telling can make people defensive and what it can cost to stay honest in systems built on silence.
What Hot Seat Therapy and 360° Reviews Have in Common
Too many internal coaches and managers still measure growth by how well you conform to other people’s expectations—especially if you’re neurodivergent, BIPOC, queer, or disabled. The result? More masking. More burnout. Less truth. This post offers a radical reframe of feedback. We’ll also dig into why the beloved 360° review process often mirrors a shady group therapy tactic called hot seat therapy—and how both can go off the rails without care, consent, and context.
BIPOC Managers: Lead Without Losing Yourself
Being a BIPOC manager means balancing leadership, mentorship, and unspoken expectations—often at the expense of your well-being. Here, we break down the unique challenges, burnout risks, and systemic barriers BIPOC leaders navigate, backed by data, with actionable insights on how to lead without sacrificing yourself.
ADHD vs. Autism: Key Differences, Overlapping Traits, and How to Get the Right Diagnosis
ADHD and autism share traits like masking, sensory overload, and social exhaustion, but they are distinct neurotypes (even though there is often an overlap). Learn how to tell the difference, why ADHDers may seem autistic, and how to get an accurate diagnosis.